Guide to Picking up Women
Picking up women has become much more difficult over the past couple of decades. Women have become smarter, better informed, and so more skeptical of men’s intentions and men have lost the ability to use cheesy pick up lines to pick up them up. In fact, picking up women isn’t at all what women want to see from a potential date.
Think of picking up girls like a practice in patience. You see her, you think you want to know her a little better, and you become unsure of yourself because you are putting pressure on yourself to make a fabulous first impression. Slow down. Get rid of the pressure. The bar or the club is the worst place to pick up girls because the women that are in there are going to be on the defensive, especially if they are there with friends to unwind. Picking up women outside of the bar or club environment is much easier.
Believe it or not, there are women who have been more receptive to being picked up in places like coffee shops, the beach, the waiting room of the oil change place, and even the emergency room of the hospital. Seriously, I once watched a guy pick up a woman in the emergency room while she was waiting for an X-ray of her arm. Anywhere that her guard might be more relaxed is a better place to try to pick up a woman than the bar.
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Once you have taken the pressure off yourself, start with a simple smile and a greeting, but don’t start seeking her out like a missile headed for a target. Don’t put pressure on yourself to be extremely witty or engaging, but just make a random but relevant comment about your surroundings or what she might seem interested in at the moment. If she shoots you down right away, she either is involved, gay, or didn’t like your approach.
Don’t be afraid to start your conversation (which you should intend to keep short) with a question. Ask her what time it is or if she knows where a special shop might be located. Ask her a simple, non-intrusive question. Don’t necessarily go straight for her name or comment on her outfit. You’re just being a guy who is talking to a woman. That’s it. If she shows any interest at all, you then have a launch point to continue conversing and you can eventually get to the relevant information like her name and her phone number.
Picking up women isn’t so much about the challenge of finding a girl to go home with you. It’s about picking up women without her feeling like you have her in your sights. If she feels like prey she will run like prey. If she feels like she’s just sharing a conversation with a nice guy, her interest will increase. Pay attention to her body language and gauge your conversation appropriately. Picking up women isn’t a walk in the park and women who are in a foul mood certainly don’t make it any easier. But if you go slowly and innocently forward, you have a much better chance of picking up girls wherever you go.
We wish you the best of luck in your dating adventures!